It is a complete lie for one to think sex is a woman's thing, to believe women love sex. It is like saying dogs love bones which is not true.
What a dog desires is meat, but the absence of meat is what causes the dog to make do with the only choice left which is the bone. The absence of affection makes a woman believe she needs sex.
We've all got our favourite food and we don't get tired of eating that on any day, at any time. Even if not served by the best chef or special person, we still enjoy it. But the story is different when it comes to foods which are not our favourite. If you have to enjoy it, it must be special, well served, well prepared, from the best cook or chef or a special person. We can't enjoy that continuously for days, we get bored or tired of it.
When it comes to male and female, each has their favourite. Sex is the man's favourite; he doesn't get tired of it unless he doesn't feel it or not in the mood. A man can have a stressful day at work and still want to have sex. A man can be sick and still want sex. The sex can last for a minute and the man stills enjoyed it and he is satisfied.
Men can have sex continuously and won't get bored with that. The sex could be poorly served, yet the man enjoys it. Since it is his favourite, it doesn't have to be at its peak or best for him to enjoy.
Men are able to ask for sex but women don't feel easy doing that. Because it's the man's thing when he is hungry, he is able to ask for that but women don't see that as their thing and therefore find it inappropriate doing that. This goes to men who complained why their wives don’t ask for sex or even shows a sign they enjoyed it.
A man can have sex with the ugliest woman and still enjoy it, some men even had sex with the sick, mad and even animals yet still enjoyed it. This is why some men are appreciating sex dolls, they can have sex with toys and still enjoy it.
Again, although sex is a man's thing, it is allowed in marriage. God in His own wisdom knows a man needs that and allowed men to have wet dreams sometimes. It's part of his provision.
Women, on the other hand, have affection as their favourite food. They crave for it, request or even beg for it in some instances. Women cannot get tired of affection. It doesn't matter the size of that food, who is serving it, as far as they are getting it, it makes them happy.
A man might not be handsome, but if he knows how to be affectionate towards a woman, such a woman is glued to him and feeds on him. That man has become her favourite chef. As far as he is thoughtful, thinks about her, does not take her for granted or ignores her, she feels loved. He holds her in his arms, tells her all she wants to hear, she feels beautiful and appreciated.
A woman can complain to a man that he is not caring, thoughtful or loving anymore and for that matter, she wants to leave the relationship, yet this woman is able to deny the man sex. What she is telling the man is, I need affection and not sex.
Men who force sex on their women are not doing them any good service. Yes, a woman can enjoy sex when it is well served; when she receives affection or feel loved. Sometimes women feel used and bitter after sex when they realize the man didn't love them. They get hurt when the man is no more affectionate towards them.
Some men, who don't understand this, try to buy sex from women by trying to give them gifts and promises. These women feel affection and open up. A woman who doesn't know that affection is what she needs ends up getting frustrated because her man didn't have sex with her. But just after the sex, she realizes sex was not what she needed.
Women are able to live alone without sex or a husband, after they lose their husband or when the man travels. But many men are not able to stay a single day after they lose their wives when they travel or are away from their wives.
In conclusion "Though good advice lies deep within a counselor’s heart, the wise man will draw it out" - Proverbs 20:5 (TLB).
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