It is amazing to hear some women being particular about the size of the manhood of their supposed spouse, and whether they are good in bed or not.
This curiosity has led most into premarital sex whilst some think the success of a marriage depends on a great sex. But truth be told, women don't need sex. She likes sex, she enjoys it but it is never her need. What a woman needs is affection.
Men, on the other hand, are the ones who need sex; so let the size of the manhood, how good he is in bed be his concern, not yours. Your concern as a woman is how a man can show you affection. Lack of affection in relationships and marriages makes some women believe sex is what they need.
If sex is what a woman needs, why do most women get angry when their husbands climax? Why are they not ever ready for sex anytime, any day and any hour their husbands need it?
Affection is what puts smiles on the woman's face, it is what makes the woman function properly. Affection is not sex. Women only open up for sex when they get affection. A woman will enjoy sex with a man when she is given the affection she needs.
Sex feels like rape or punishment to some women when they are not shown affection. Due to a woman's swing moods and monthly cycle, it isn't always that they want sex. Most at times, all they want is affection. In times like this, all she needs is for you to hug her, kiss her, hold and cuddle her.
Affection to a woman is when you kiss her in front of your ex-girlfriends when you decide to prepare breakfast for her in bed, to let her know you appreciate how much she tries to cook for you every day but for today, you just want to pamper her and do that for her.
Affection is when you write her love letters to tell her how much she means to you, how blessed you are to have her in your life. Affection to her is when you take her for a walk or for a ride, it is when you hold her hand as you walk through the street.
Affection to her is when you buy her a card or a flower. You don't wait till her birthday, valentine, Christmas or a special occasion. You do that because you believe she is special and needs to be celebrated anytime.
Affection is when you tell her every day you love her, that she is the most beautiful woman in the world. Affection is when you take her out for lunch just to buy coke or ice cream for no reason. Affection is not expensive but just thoughtfulness.
Affection is calling her in the middle of the day just to tell her "I miss you" "I am thinking about you and can't wait to see you". Affection is buying her a chocolate on your way back home. Showing affection is not an occasional thing, it's an everyday thing. It starts from the morning when you wake up; looking in her eyes in bed and telling her there are millions of women in the world but none caught your attention, none comes close to her.
Affection is dressing her in the morning, helping her with combing of her hair, taking her to the bathroom, bathing her without having sex with her. Affection is massaging her without having sex with her. It just takes thoughts to be affectionate. The problem is, most men do this to their woman during dating but suddenly stop when they get married. This is what a woman needs and not sex.
In conclusion "Do not withhold good from those who deserve it when it’s in your power to help them" - Proverbs 3:27 (NLT).
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Credit:Â Frank Edem Adofoli