Marriage is about as big as milestones come. This is your partner! For life! And as such, there are some fundamental life moves you should try to accomplish before you walk down the aisle, just to be sure that you’re entering into your marriage as responsible and self-aware as you can be.
For women, some things can be learned over time, with a lot of experience. Others can be easily learned while some can be learned by simple observation. Marriage is one of those things that no matter how long a woman studies or observes it; there is always something new for her to learn.
When it comes to marriage, no woman knows it all but there are some things every woman should know before they get married. These things can also be applied during marriage as well.
1.Your husband doesn’t want another mother
Don’t go into marriage with the belief that you are your husband’s mother. He wants a partner, someone to be by his side supporting him and someone he can support too. You might be tempted to tell him what to do or nag him, but avoid that temptation.
2. A lasting marriage is made up of two forgiving people
Even after you marry the best man in the world, he will come with imperfections and faults, and you also come with imperfections and faults. Learn to move past hurts and forgive him for his shortcomings. Learning to forgive quickly is a necessary skill for a marriage that will last.
3. You must stop sharing personal issue with everyone
There are people who just can’t keep their business to themselves. However, you’re about to get into a whole new level of life. What that means is that things that happened before can’t keep happening if you want a happy marriage. You need to learn to be more private. Do not share your relationship or marital issues with everyone because that doesn’t bring solutions, it just breeds more confusion. Your man is probably the only one you should talk to about your fears and insecurities, and if you feel like someone else needs to come in the picture, then perhaps, a very trusted friend can be the only one.
4. Passion actually never has to fade
Yes, there will be times when you feel gross and tired and that passion and romance is the last thing on your mind. But make the effort to keep the passion alive in your relationship because you and your marriage will be grateful in the long run.
5. Don’t expect your husband to fulfil all your needs
Your husband is just one person who can’t be expected to be everything you need in your life. Balance is important in all things including the relationship with your husband. Maintain your friendships and family bonds even as you get married.
6. Be realistic about romance
Don’t get caught up in romantic movies and novels, they can distort your view on what real romance is. You should find out how your husband wants to be loved and give him that even as he loves you too.
7. Don’t compare your husband to anyone else
Comparison is just never a good idea, especially when it comes to your husband. Love and appreciate the man you have. The grass is not green on the other side in all cases. The grass is green where you water it.
8. There really is no smooth marriage
You and your husband may face totally different trials or victories than any other couple you may ever meet, and that’s perfectly okay. The important thing to remember is that you and your husband will face them together, hand in hand.