Some partners, especially ladies, mistaken valentine's day as a day for gifts.
They want their men to spoil them with materialistic things on the day. Failure to do so leads to break ups. Truth be told, many relationships will come to an end this 14th February because guys were not able to spend on or afford special gifts for their ladies on valentine's day.
Love goes beyond material things and buying things for you. Spending on you on such days does not always mean the spender is so much in love with you. Sometimes they are doing so to impress you or blind you from their secret affairs.
Again, spending on you on such a day is very easy, it is just 24hrs out of 365 days, someone can wait for such a day just to impress you. Any man can spoil you on such day with gifts but the right man goes beyond that.
So instead of wanting your man to spoil you with gifts, go beyond that. You should look out for him spoiling you with understanding, listening, honesty, loyalty, affection, and communication. These things go beyond gifts, they are more expensive than material things, they are priceless, one cannot buy them, it is not easy to afford.
A man who loves you should go beyond gifts on the said day; a man who will learn to see things from your point of view, who will learn to accept the fact that being in a relationship or in love does not mean you will always have one view or opinion. They will have different views but a mature man will understand your feeling, value your input and won't push what he thinks of you as final.
The right man for you should make time for you on the said day to listen to you, give you the chance to tell him what you are not happy with, in the relationship what you like about him and what you want to be changed etc.
You need a man who will be honest with you, naked with his thought, vision, direction and his intention and feelings for you on the said day. If he doesn't see the future with you, it is the right time for him to tell you the truth rather than lead you on.
You need a man who is totally loyal to you, someone you can count on, someone who values the relationship he has with you and won't sacrifice it for anything; not for money or lust or beauty. Someone who can tell the numerous girls interested in him that he is taken and not available. Someone who will shut down a relationship with an ex. Someone who puts you first.
You need a real gentleman who won't be rude to you, who is thoughtful, caring, and respects you. Someone who knows your needs and is willing to help you with that.
You need a man, who exchanges plans and ideas with you, who always checks on you and sees you as part and parcel of him. Not someone you have to beg to call or answer your calls, not someone who is too busy for you. But someone who forgives you when you are wrong, helps you to become a better version of yourself.
In conclusion "Keep your eyes open, hold tight to your convictions, give it all you've got, be resolute, and love without stopping" - 1 Corinthians 13-14 (MSG).
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